Some of us have very difficult, even traumatic, life stories. This is true. And we carry the scars to prove it.

If you are one of these people, how you are interpreting the events in your life and replaying them over and over again in your mind could either be helping or harming you. Examining your thoughts is important, for if you see the world as an unsafe place to live, then you will live your life in a stressed and survival state instead of in a relaxed and thriving state. This stressed state can lead you to seek ways to escape. Perhaps to seek escape through drugs. Or alcohol. Or food. Maybe sex, porn, binge-watching movies/TV shows, video games, work, sports, binge eating, etc.

What if there was a way that you could use those difficulties to propel you forward in a more positive direction? To cause you to grow stronger and to expand your life? What if you can use those tragedies as catalysts to bring more joy and energy into your life?

How? By reimagining and reinterpreting your story.

Have you been telling the same story for ten, twenty, thirty years or more? What if you began to reinvent your story by telling it in a different, more insightful way? To see all of your struggles as challenges to be overcome? What if you can begin to flex your overcomer “muscles” and tell yourself a different story that has a far better outcome than what you may be experiencing now? This requires courageously looking at your life in a new way and opening up your heart to notice and listen to what those life challenges have to teach you. I call this “Mining for Diamonds,” for lessons that are learned can be like diamonds that have great value.

Mining For Diamonds

Diamonds are formed through the combination of high temperatures deep within the earth with the high pressure of rocks above which create carbon crystals. Deep-seated volcanic eruptions bring the diamonds up towards the surface where they can be mined.

Pressure, heat, eruptions. These are all traumatic processes that cause profound changes to happen over time.

It is the same for you. Under pressure, deep seated hurts and traumas can be transformed into beautiful gems that are just waiting to surface. Bringing them to the surface requires the deep, personal inner work of revising the stories you have been telling yourself. Admittedly, this can be painful, even heart-rending, but the results are transformative and brilliant.

So, what is your story and how can you begin to look at it through a different lens? What lessons are lurking under the surface, waiting to be mined and polished to shine through and make you more beautiful? These challenges are gifts that have the power to transform your life.

Embrace Your Life Story

Perhaps you’ve been rebelling against your own life because of the difficulties of the present or the past. Maybe you curse your life, causing you a great deal of sadness and stress. You may, in fact, hate your life and what has been done to you. This is completely understandable.

The truth is – you can’t change the past. You can only change your relationship to it.

How do you do this? By having a shift in mindset. By beginning to look at your life story in a new and healthier way so that your body and soul may start to heal.

Here you are, living your life, but perhaps you haven’t fully agreed to be a full participant in and embrace your life as it unfolds. You are silently resisting and protesting your life. You are partially in your body, but mostly living inside of your head, as if you are sleepwalking.

Embracing your life means accepting that you are alive, here on planet earth, at this place and time. It means that you are living your own unique life; in your own special circumstances; in your own individual body. Just as importantly, it means not hating, cursing, and attacking your life and your life story by viewing it as deficient, broken, miserable, and not good enough.

Agreeing to be here means you accept that this is your life, your body, your circumstances, your age, gender, income, etc. Accepting that these are your parents, your children. These are the traumas you’ve lived through, the challenges you’ve faced, the heartbreak, the joys, the ups, the downs…

This doesn’t mean that you have to love, sanction, or approve of any of the harmful behaviors, betrayals, and wrongs done to you by others. Yes, you can acknowledge how very difficult all of it has been, but, at the same time, you consciously agree to be aware of what is happening around you. Otherwise, you will have no interest or motivation to grow and change. You can become apathetic, bitter, resentful.

If you do not agree to be here by embracing your life, then why practice healthy habits such as exercising, eating nutritious foods, or being truly authentic? Why work hard at digging deeply and doing all of the difficult, inner work that needs to be done in order to transform your life? You will look for the quick fix and travel down the path of least resistance, which will not get you to where you really want to go or become who you are truly meant to be.

You have a choice. Will you show up and live your life in a world that, we all know, can be harsh, unjust, and unfair? Embrace your life so that you look at the world for what it is and agree that, as long as you are alive, you will fully participate to the best of your abilities and not be in protest of your very existence.

If you would like any help in transforming and healing your life, book a call so we can talk. I look forward to meeting you!