She found herself, once again, sinking into confusion and hopelessness resulting in profound sadness and overwhelm. When this happened, she’d call her former teacher.

“Hi! How are you?” he sincerely asked.

“Well, not that great. You see…” and off she went, pouring out her soul into his ear. She spoke of all the injustices she felt were in her life, of her pain, confusion, and lack of support. She shared how she felt all alone in the world. As she spoke, the tears flowed. She couldn’t stop them.

After much time passed, she stopped. She felt spent. She had said all that she wanted to say. It was now his turn. He had quietly listened. He reflected. He took his time. When he was ready, he said, “Where is God in all of this?”

Yes, where is God?

Life is a classroom

I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I also believe that purpose and meaning can be found in suffering, but not in the suffering, per se, but in the lessons that the pain and suffering could be teaching us.

Pain and suffering propel us to ask difficult questions. Much can be revealed to us when we ask questions. Much can be exposed as we wash away the dross with our tears. There is great wisdom to be obtained as we work through difficult circumstances by listening to the lessons beneath the surface. There are great truths to be mined that lie behind the external and beyond the superficial.

Can this be difficult to do? Yes, of course, but the way forward is through. We have to walk the path that God puts us on and learn the lessons being taught along the way that will mold us into becoming more complete and beautiful versions of ourselves as well as to experience a deeper relationship with God. This is the good that can come out of our suffering and pain.

“God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pain: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world…”

CS Lewis The Problem of Pain

God speaks to us in many different ways. He speaks to us through our bodies by way of symptoms. He speaks to us through difficult circumstances. He speaks to us through nature. If you listen, you will learn a great deal about God, yourself, and the world. It can be challenging, but flexing our soul’s muscles makes us stronger. If we resist what it is that we are to be learning, we will have more symptoms and unwanted habits, for this adds to our stress, and stress has a very negative impact on the mind, body, and soul.

Unfortunately, we are often not good listeners – to friends, our family, our bodies. And to God. We often have fixed ideas of what we think should happen. We live with agendas and get upset and, perhaps, angry when things don’t go the way we think they should go. Being open to new ideas can be frightening, but it can also open up new worlds we never thought existed. We may think it is safer to just keep thinking in the ways we’ve always thought and doing all the things we’ve been habitually doing. But this will likely keep us small and contracted. It may be time to do something different in order to get different results. It may be time to stop and listen to what God may be trying to tell us through our pain, fatigue, and confusion.

Opening Up to God

People who suffer the most have the most to give. But this is only true if we are willing to do the deep inner work needed to have a life that has been transformed.

The body is a gateway into the soul. There is a whole new world for us to explore on the spiritual side of us. Sometimes, a refusal to investigate and grow in this area can also bring on symptoms, both physical and psychological. A refusal to open up the heart can harm both the brain and the body because of the stress caused by avoiding what is calling us. The soul realm is deep and personal and, at times, difficult to look at fully in the face, but there is so much we can learn from our conditions, diseases, or confusion if we intentionally choose to listen. There are deeper life lessons to be learned that go deeper than just our body.

If we want a different result in our lives, then we need to be open to doing something different. Being open to exploring who God is and what He would want for us can be life-changing.

God gives purpose and meaning to our lives

It has been my experience that, on the whole, whatever is worthy and transformative is often the most difficult route and it takes time for us to change.

We were created to carry loads – physical, emotional, and spiritual. Like a bodybuilder whose goal is to build and shape muscles, bearing the heavy loads of life can make us more resilient, stronger, and wise. But we can sometimes get caught in the grind of life. Year after year we may go through life feeling unfulfilled, our true selves remaining unexpressed. We go to work, come home, raise the children, feel sorry for ourselves, wishing things could be different.

Going to work, raising children, taking care of elderly parents, and the like are all worthy acts, but they can also leave us wondering “Isn’t there more to life?”

Maybe you are like me, seeking an answer to the question, “What am I doing with my life?” I want to DO something worthwhile. To be a part of something that will make a difference to others.

People want to have a sense of purpose, meaning, and hope. These are things that food can’t give us. Or a job. Or even children. Only God can give these things to us. The point is not that we should be doing something differently, but rather, to have a higher purpose for what we are doing that is more than simply surviving and getting through our day, week, month, year, and life. I want to have God bless my life. To sanction it and give it eternal meaning and value. Could that be what is be missing from your life?

How do we begin to connect to God? It’s simple. We only need to ask Him to show Himself to us. And watch what happens.

Remember: Go gently. And be patient.


When exhausted women ask, “Why am I so tired all the time?” I help them to explore their story to see what has happened in the past that is draining their energy today. 

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