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Opening Up to Your Emotions

As she sat quietly thinking, a feeling of sadness began to arise in her. She felt it in her body. In the past, she would have run from it. She would have fought it or ignored it by distracting herself...

Trauma: Living In a Freeze State

She was twelve when her local middle school launched a new gym program. It was a rock climbing project they called “Project Alpine,” which included traveling down a long zip line. The process was simple – climb a tree with...

Emotional Triggers and What to Do About Them

She always becomes anxious and annoyed when her long-time friend visits due to the chaotic nature of her friend’s personality. Her stress state grows in intensity the longer they are together. Her friend is often defensive, accusative, and speaks in...

Post-traumatic Growth: Finding Beauty and Meaning in Suffering

As soon as Anna stepped inside Jonathan’s room, she felt something was wrong. Chills ran down her spine as she walked over to the crib. She tried to stir him, and her cries turned into wailing as she realized her...

5 Steps to Healing Trauma

Chaos. That’s what she was living in, especially the chaos that dwells in her head. She had questions: Why? Why can’t I do what I want to do? Why can’t I be the person I want to be? Why can’t...

Be the Hero of Your Life, Not a Victim

She didn’t think that any of her problems were her own fault. This meant that she didn’t have to take any of the blame. She was constantly defensive when people gave advice. She never really listened when others tried to...

Your Thoughts Matter: How Negative Thinking Affects Chronic Fatigue

A conversation between health coach Kimberly Smith and Mulk Raj, health coach and founder of Hope and the Magnolia. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Join my community? When exhausted women ask, “Why am I so tired all the time?” I help them to explore...

The Voice Inside Your Head: Dealing with Your Inner Critic

Honestly speaking her mind to a friend sent her inner critic into a tizzy. “Who do you think you are? What will people think of you? You are too strident. Too divisive. Too critical. You might hurt people’s feelings.” She...

Is There Safety and Love in Perfectionism?

She began reading the beginning of Stephen Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. As she read, she tried to understand and apply ALL that Covey taught in the book. Covey explained that the first three habits (being proactive,...

Fawning: A Trauma Response

She often feels like a stranger, trapped in conversations with people who say things she disagrees with, but can’t muster the courage to contradict. She is uncomfortable. She gets angry and antsy. She wants to scream, to escape and run...